Catholic Candle note: The article below was written by a man who has always been Traditional Catholic and who has been continually fighting liberalism since before Vatican II.
For those who have acquaintances who would especially benefit from his experience raising children successfully, consider copying and distributing this article to them.
Gradualism—A gradual change in anything is more likely to be accepted.
A family rule enforced only some of the time is no rule at all and puts in jeopardy all other rules.
Example: The length of your daughter’s dress or skirt is a prime topic for a family meeting. The family rule is a minimum of 1” (25.4mm) below the knee when seated. If not strictly enforced every day—no exceptions—you will be surprised one day when 2” (50.8mm) above the knee is accepted as normal by your daughter. And so on.
Bad music is a major tool of the devil’s conquest. Obscene music’s language, rhythm and suggestive dancing no doubt has corrupted the majority of today’s youth. Such music and dance are never allowed. No exceptions.
Tattoos are sins against the 5th Commandment and send a signal to others: “I’m willing to do what it takes to fit in or to have a ‘wild’ time and live a life without restraints.”
“Dressing down”—This means rebelling against conformity to the high standards of dress and etiquette. One acts much in accord with the way he or she dresses. If you wear jeans to school or church, it will affect your behavior and effort level. Some schools have finally realized this and now require a shirt and tie with dress slacks for the boys, and proper dresses or uniforms for the girls.
Video games and movies—They establish suggestive immoral pictures in your mind that the devil uses to convince you to build upon in your life, with the idea “Why not? Everybody does it”. More souls go to hell by sins of impurity than any other, as our Blessed Mother at Fatima warns us.
Piercing (nose, eyebrows, lips, etc.), like tattoos, sends the same message of willing to live a life without restraints.
Home chores—All should work around the home, starting at an early age, until they leave and are on their own.
Employment—Work outside the home to help cover some of their expenses, plus saving for future education, is a must.
Use of the family car—On a restricted basis to fulfill family needs. Personal use under supervision. The parents set the time children must be home, whether using the family car or not.
Overall effort and results—All are expected to work hard and achieve the highest results according to their ability.
Good manners, good attitude, good behavior—Wholesome recreation and living their Catholic Faith are necessary to attain the highest goals the family always strives for. High goals can only be achieved if they are set high.
Respect for others, especially male for female—Misunderstandings within the family are settled by Judge Mother or Judge Father.
Females in the family dress like modest women, never like males (e.g., in pants). Today’s politically-correct Feminist movements’ propaganda of any kind is rejected and not allowed.
Children’s friends will be approved by the parents. (To avoid obvious problems.)
Family Meals—All will attend and on time, eat what is served without complaint, and with the best of manners and language.
Children never ever talk back to parents—Infractions punished appropriately. The sin of bad example must be avoided like the plague.
Family Rosary—A must every day with a set schedule, all attending.
Rules Established for Dating and Marriage—(With a view to avoiding a mixed marriage or worse):